In which The Gay Recluse wonders who made this stuff up, and not without appreciation.
“I like your style” is kinda funny, but the back of the bottle is where things get good.
“Wow. That’s some great looking hair you have.”
Did you lol? We did.
For some reason it never ceases to amuse us. We imagine saying these 8.5 words to random people everywhere: on the street, the subway, to co-workers, our supervisors, people we genuinely like and those we genuinely hate. “Wow. That’s some great looking hair you have.”
On one hand, it’s hard not to imagine a 1970s guy in a wide collar oozing up to the Farrah Fawcett receptionist and delivering the line with a knowing nod, but the lack of exclamation points — the comic gold! — causes us to straddle a line between post-modern ironic absurdity and genuine wonder at the incredible quality of the hair we are observing. There is even a sense of relief that we are not beholding anything less than the transcendent, e.g. “Wow. Obama really did it.” We digest this for a few seconds and then laugh, because it’s something we wanted so badly that we could barely bring ourselves to believe that we actually have it. But then it sinks in, and we laugh again.
Thanks, Pert Plus! We hate a lot of products — not to mention having some serious problems with capitalism in general — but you’re an exception. (And give that copywriter a raise.)
Filed under: Architecture, Capitalism, Dissonance, Language | 2 Comments
Tags: Copywriters, Great Looking Hair, Pert Plus
In which The Gay Recluse clarifies his thoughts on gay marriage after years of skirting the issue.
Since we are gay and in a long-term relationship — almost ten years! — we are constantly besieged by frenz and relatives with questions that more or less could be summed up as this: “Oh it’s so sweet that you’re together! If you could get married, would you?”
In the past, we’ve generally hesitated before offering something along the lines of: “Well, maybe — but since it’s not going to happen anytime soon, let’s not worry about it.” This answer, of course, is disingenuous to the degree that we would get married in a second if it meant we could receive the same tax/legal benefits that “straight” couples currently receive. We would even like to throw a party — a$$uming we’re not bankrupt — because even though we’re reclusive misanthropic curmudgeons, “weddings” are fun and offer a few hours of unadulterated optimism before sending us back to the hard travails of daily life. (Note: we do not ever want to call this a “commitment ceremony” — even if that’s essentially what it is — because omg “precious moments” barf!)
And yet yet yet! The vocabulary of this process — marriage, engagements, bridezillas, groomzillas, fiances, even weddings — strikes us as distasteful and cumbersome to the extreme, and it’s really this — we now realize — that has been the root of our hesitation. In truth, we don’t ever want to get “married”; after fleeing the wasteland of suburban America — where every single house featured two people who were or had been married — we have no desire to return to that sad landscape of desparation and conformity. Along the same lines, we have never liked the words “husband” and “wife” and frankly never want them to pass our lips when describing our relationship partner, because these words are indelibly tainted by association with an outdated, homophobic, misogynistic and bourgeois mode of thinking (and society) that has absolutely no appeal to us (except in campy movies and teevee shows).
Though we are obviously not the only gays to express frustration with marriage and everything it implies in this regard, we are often surprised by the failure of those doing so to make the following point, which to us is most critical in the current (and quickly evolving) political climate: it’s possible to be against marriage — even, or especially, gay marriage — but in favor of equality for all, and we should frame our political objectives in terms of the latter, while dispensing with the former. This, of course, is what Obama implied in the debates about “gay marriage,” and we should hold him to it!
Practically speaking of course, this would entail the promulgation of legislation that would strip the word and concept of “marriage” from federal laws and regulations (and by implication the states) and replace it with a “civil union” that would be open to any two people, regardless of age, gender, sexual orientation or even family status. (Because really, there’s no reason why say, two sisters living together shouldn’t have the option of filing a joint tax return and receiving whatever other advantages are offered to “married” couples.)
The reason this is important to consider now is that there is a huge opportunity to make this happen at the federal level and we (collectively speaking) should not squander it by squabbling over “gay marriage.” (Which careful observers should note is the term of choice for Republican assholes and fundamentalist nutjobs, i.e., “the gays want gay marriage! Outrage!”)
As any (good) lawyer will tell you — not to mention any political campaign strategist — legal fights are won and lost based on definitions of the terms involved. Let’s be honest with ourselves: “gay marriage” is needlessly provocative and moreover a losing proposition in our seriously homophobic country, as California just demonstrated, particularly when we can express the same objectives in terms of “equality,” which is more often a winning argument.
So if people want to limit “marriage” to a man and woman, we should happily grant this, but at the same time press our allies (starting with Obama) to acknowledge that the state needs to get out of the business of “marriage” asap in order to ensure equal treatment for all of its citizens. “Civil union for all” is the most elegant way forward, and we should join the ranks of the enlightened countries that have already recognized this.
Filed under: Disease, Dissonance, Drag Queens, Drivel, Gay, Government, Infrastructure, Landscape, Language, Law, Pessimism, Politicians | 5 Comments
Tags: Civil Unions, Gay Marriage, Marriage, Semantics
In which The Gay Recluse has a “special comment” for the straights.
We’re obviously not the first to point this out, but it nevertheless seems incredible to us that our life in the city — as we approach our 41st year — is in some ways a tired script from a ridiculous sit-com.
We’re talking of course, about dating! Not us, but our friends! Specifically the thousands of ladies we know — talented, smart, artistic, witty, vibrant, financially independent, good-looking (hey, as far as we can tell!) ladies — who are looking for a man, but who in all cases are repeatedly failing to find anyone even remotely plausible.
Nor are these women we would ever describe as having particularly high standards. Take our friend J___, for example, who just wrote that she was considering a date with a 67-year-old man, even though he listed himself as 55 in his profile (she’s 36) and only disclosed his true age after a few e-mail exchanges. “At least he’s honest!” she said.
Or our friend S____, who recently received a pleasant “blind-date” e-mail from a friend of a friend asking if she’d like to get together for a drink. She forwarded us the e-mail and we agreed: the guy sounded completely normal and kind of sweet. We were excited on her behalf! “Sure!” she wrote back, “Call me this weekend and we’ll pick a night for next week.” (Which by the way, he suggested.)
Then he didn’t call until Tuesday of the following week, explaining that he had a friend in town and couldn’t “get away” for the two minutes it would have taken to call. Wtf! Talk about starting off on the wrong foot! How could we blame our friend when she quickly told him that she was leaving the country for the next ten years?
Then another friend of ours recently had this guy follow her around a bar for the better part of a night, begging for her number so that he could take her to dinner. “I’m very traditional,” he claimed more than once. She gave him her number, and of course he never called.
We do have one friend our age — actually, she’s more of a frenemy — who goes on many dates with men. But ha ha, they’re all married! (You might say she’s the “cougar” in the bad teevee show that is our life in this regard.)
So with all of that in mind, we’d like to put the question out there to all you straights, men and women alike: what’s wrong with you? Seriously! Why can’t you treat these ladies with the respect they deserve?
Why can’t you get your act together, pool your resources and help them find eligible mates? (Which does not usually include drug addicts or closet-cases, btw!) Forget the economy for a second, this is a major crisis!
These women have played by the rules of society, and yet you punish them by dashing their hopes of love by setting them up with an astounding parade of freaks and flakes! Why?
If you had your act together, we gays might be more inclined to take your advice on gay marriage a little more seriously! But when we have 10,000 of our closest female friends complaining to us every single day about the Sahara desert that is the dating landscape, you can understand why we’re more than a little skeptical about the “sanctity” of your institution.
Face facts: you’re a mess, and tons of your own people are suffering because of it. As someone else recently pointed out to great effect: it’s time for a change.
Filed under: Conspiracy, Decay, Drivel, Gay, Knockbusters, Landscape, Monopoly, New York City, The Autumn Garden | 7 Comments
Tags: Dating, Japanese Maples, Ladies, Men, Sit-Coms, The Gays, The Straights
In which The Gay Recluse feels vaguely nauseous.
So OMG did everyone hear that Keith Olbermann had a “special comment” last night (or was it two nights ago, whenevs) about Prop 8 and gay marriage? Chances are, if you spent five seconds on the internet today, you did!
We were told not only to watch it thousands of times, but to send it along to all of our closest friends and relatives! If KO can get it, so can they!
And in truth, it’s not a bad clip. Even though KO makes a wtf point at the beginning when he notes that his family and personal life are not tainted by the presence of any gays, he does make an earnest and at times moving if melodramatic and overwrought appeal to the idea that love between two people of any gender is something that should be allowed to burn, or at least not be actively extinguished.
So our reservations here really have nothing to do with KO, even though we can’t help but ask why he couldn’t have made the point last week if he felt so strongly about it. But hey, better late than never — and trust us, this is going to be a national issue, so there will be plenty of opportunity for him to reiterate — and obv the world would be a better place if even five percent of the political shouting heads on teevee expressed themselves as eloquently as KO, and shared his socially liberal mindset. Maybe a few of them even have some gayz in their families!? Can’t wait to find out.
What struck us as kind of sad, however, was the fervor with which the appeal was made by some of our gay friends in their pleas to watch and forward this around. There was an aura of redemption, as if to say: “You see, this aggressively straight network teevee man with a deep, sexy voice understands, so now we are truly worthy. Finally — validation!”
This is a completely understandable impulse, given the extreme and oppressive levels of hatred we have all grown up with and still live under 24/7. Even if we’ve been “accepted” by our families and friends, it cannot be disputed that we are by and large considered disgusting freaks by what at most times feels like 100 percent of the population, as watching a few hours of network teevee (and the associated advertising) quickly proves. This is still a country — no, a civilization — where a gay kiss on the cheek is beyond the pale of most shows and advertising.
On some level, we too wish to be loved and accepted. We want our loves (and our fucking) to be appreciated or at least understood, we want acknowledgment that our forms of these passions are no worse than anyone else’s.
This is why KO’s message reverberated so strongly, we think. But if KO changed one person’s mind on this issue, we would like to hear from you, e.g., “I hated the gays and voted for Prop 8, but after hearing KO, I wish I could vote against it now.”)
The love and acceptance we crave is beyond the ability of KO or anyone else to grant, and so we try not to attach too much importance or expectation to what he or anyone else says. This is why KO’s gesture is kind but ultimately irrelevant and superficial.
We’re not talking about a political truth but a philosophical one, rooted in the notion that life is the heaviest of burdens, and our only task is to live it.
Filed under: Disease, Dissonance, Gay, Government, Language, Law, Pessimism, Politicians, Resignation, Stereotypes, Television, The Gay Recluse | 8 Comments
Tags: Fucking, Keith Olbermann, Love, Shells, Teevee, The Gays, The Straights
In which The Gay Recluse microblogs.
Jeannette Winterson in The Times of London writes:
If you believe, as I do, that there is such a thing as a creative continuum common to everyone, it is not difficult to believe that everyone benefits from exposure to, and participation in, creative endeavour. Capitalism has doomed most people to meaningless jobs by day and passive consumer pleasures for the rest of the time. Creativity is about engagement, prompting us to reconfigure what it means – and what it costs – to be content.
I have been reading Sheila Rowbotham’s truly wonderful biography of Edward Carpenter, an early socialist pioneer, who in the 1880s gave up his smart life at Cambridge and built a modest house and market garden outside Sheffield, where he put into practice ideas about living simply and sustainably…Carpenter was homosexual.*
Needless to say, we have always loved JW! Read the rest here! Thanks to Reader CBNY (via Maitresse).
*Like Henry David Thoreau, obvs!
Filed under: Capitalism, Communism, Dissonance, Gay, Writers-British | 2 Comments
Tags: Art Is God, Edward Carpenter, God Is Art, Henry David Thoreau, Jeanette Winterson, Microblogging, The Times of London
In which a painter is also obsessed with the George Washington Bridge.
So on Saturday when we were walking around in the rain, we were kinda shocked to stumble upon this rather swank gallery on Riverside Drive and 181st Street in Washington Heights.
We knocked on the door and they let us in, even though they were setting up for an opening slated for this Thursday night from 6 – 8. Here’s a self-portrait of the artist, Bennett Vadnais. According to his bio, Bennett was born in 1978 and has been pursuing art srsly since his early teens! (When we think of what we were doing in our early teens, it usually involves a hockey rink.) For the past year or so, he’s been painting all of our favorite haunts around Wahi, including the river, the bridge and Ft. Tryon Park.
Here’s a most excellent painting of the bridge! It was great to look through the window at the real thing, too, because really, how often do you get to do that?
And here’s another painting of some trees down by the river, just before you get to the tennis courts. This is truly one of the most beautiful parts of Manhattan; if you’ve never had a chance to visit, you really should. Who knows — you might even pick up a paint brush!
K.B. Gallery
875 West 181st Street Unit A (at Riverside Drive)
212-543-2393
Bennet Vadnais opening reception: Thursday, November 13, 6-8
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Tags: Art Openings, Bennett Vadnais, George Washington Bridge, K.B. Gallery
On Day for Night
In which The Gay Recluse loves Truffaut.
So tonight we watched Day for Night, Francois Truffaut’s 1973 movie about movie-making. Although “day for night” apparently (because what do we know?) refers to a film technique by which a day shot is made to look like the night, it also — at least in the English translation (in French it’s La Nuit Américaine) — encapsulates the sense of confusion and wonder that surrounds any kind of theatrical endeavor in which the pedestrian and tedious hours of the day give way to the giddy swirl of art and performance. Truffaut perfectly captures both the illogical side of making art — the logistical hassles, the crazies, the money troubles — and the pleasures — the camaraderie, the affairs, the laffs — that so often make the inevitable return to “real” life seem so burdensome, particularly for those (like Truffaut, evidement) who only truly live for their art. Truffaut himself stars as the director of the film-within-a-film, and is a pleasure to watch with Jean-Pierre Léaud and Jacqueline Bisset, both of whom radiate a certain early 1970s hedonism built around great-looking hair. It should also be noted that the leading man in the film-within-the-film is an older “ladie’s man” who doesn’t really shock anyone on the set by bringing his younger gay lover along for the ride. (This is really a minor sub-plot, but the de facto manner in which it’s presented is yet another reason to love this film, which resonates with a truth built around the idea that the theatrical world has always lived by different rules than the outside.) Finally for cat lovers, the film has one of the most adorable sequences ever in which the film crew tries to get a kitten to drink milk from a saucer left outside a door. Serious awws and lolz! When the movie abruptly (but appropriately) ends, we feel the same kind of wistful longing to live outside of ourselves for the sake of art, and dread the sad prospect of returning to the work that is everyday life.
Filed under: Animals, Film, Gay, Pessimism, Philosophers | 2 Comments
Tags: 1973, Day for Night, Francois Truffaut, Great hair, Jacqueline Bisset, Jean-Pierre Léaud, La Nuit Americaine, Lolcats
In which The Gay Recluse cooks.
Yesterday we went for a walk in the rain, in part because we wanted to check out what was happening uptown, and in part because none of the grocery stores around us carry the curly parsley that we needed for the lentil soup we planned to make.
We’ve been making this recipe for at least twenty years, ever since our mother taught it to us before we went to college.
She got it from Diet for a Small Planet by Francis Moore Lappé, which according to the site was first published in 1971 and has sold over 3 million copies. We lost our copy a long time ago in one of our many moves, but fortunately we’ve memorized the recipe (or some version of it that works for us!).
Even before we were born (and before Diet for a Small Planet was written) our mother was into “health food,” as it used to be called.
She had a crazy uncle “Jimmy” from California who visited our family in Pittsburgh — this was in the mid-60s, when California used to be liberal and “cutting-edge,” (unlike now, ha). The story goes that he showed up in an RV filled with his own provisions for the entire cross-country trip. He was a missionary for a new way of eating: he taught our mother about whole wheat and the evils of processed sugar. Believe it or not, back then most people (i.e., idiot doctors, especially!) didn’t make the connection between what you eat and your health — which is why everyone thought “Jimmy” was crazy — but all of this resonated with our mother, who was always looking to expand the confines of her suburban existence. When he left, she threw out everything in her kitchen that contained white flour or sugar, which was pretty much everything (much to the dismay of our older siblings, who would not see a cookie for the next four or five years).
This was the start of our mother’s Cultural Revolution. In many ways, we were the beneficiary: when our mother was pregnant with us a few years after Jimmy’s visit, she forced herself to drink “Tiger’s Milk” (the homemade kind, with blackstrap molasses) throughout the entire pregnancy, which she thinks is why we were the tallest of her children, even though we were the last of five. (But hmmm, did it make us gay? Hey science, get on that!)
Predictably, our mother had softened somewhat by the time we were growing up, so that we were given liberties that would have been unthinkable to our older siblings. (Hello, Ho-Ho’s!) But we were still raised on “brown bread,” and all “sugar cereals” — e.g., Frosted Flakes — were verboten. She used to say that all forms of white bread were “enbalmed.”
There’s no question that revolution can be epic and sweeping, but it can also be as simple as a pot of soup. We often look with dismay at the rows and rows of shit — sodas and potato chips, etc. etc. — they sell in the stores around here and we know that the world would be a better place if everyone made more lentil soup. (But it’s worth noting that we often think this as we reach for a bag of potato chips.)
But our own imperfections aside, the soup represents our highest ideals: the ingredients are cheap, but still represent generations of striving for something greater — i.e., more just — than what we are originally given.
Lentil Soup, The Gay Recluse Style:
In a large soup pot, sauté one large white onion and a bag of carrots (chop them up, obvs) in olive oil with a lot of thyme and marjoram. Add two large cans of crushed tomatoes, a bag of lentils, an entire bunch of curley parsely (i.e., the kind used for decoration, also chopped up) and four cans of water (the same size as the crushed tomatoes). Bring to a boil and then simmer for a few hours until done. Add salt and pepper to taste. Prior to serving, splash some sherry into it and sprinkle with grated swiss cheese. Eat, feel healthy and ecologically in tune. (At least until dessert — some storebought chocolate cake and ice-cream — lolz.)
Filed under: City Pattern Project, Dissonance, Food, Gay, Health, Landscape, Longing, Memory, Nostalgia, Photography, Pleasure, Science, Search, The Autumn Garden, Washington Heights, Weather | 4 Comments
Tags: Cultural Revolution, Enbalmed Bread, Health Food, Lentil Soup, Recipes, Sugar Cereals, Uncle Jimmy
In which The Gay Recluse retains his second-class citizenship.
In her most recent column in Teh Times, “Tears To Remember,” (umm, barfing yet?) Judith Warner writes of the “glory” and “bliss” of the Obama victory, and goes on to discuss two images that most indelibly marked the night for her: “One is that of Jesse Jackson’s face, drenched in tears, in Chicago’s Grant Park on Tuesday evening,” she writes and goes on to explain: “This moment of triumph marks the end of such a long period of pain, of indignity and injustice for African-Americans. And for so many others of us, of the trampling and debasing of our most basic ideals, beliefs that we cherished every bit as deeply and passionately as those of the “values voters” around whose sensibilities we’ve had to tiptoe for the past 28 years.”
When we saw Jesse Jackson, by contrast, we thought of what he said in 2004: “In my culture, marriage is a man-woman relationship,” along with a bunch of other bullshit that — funny how this happens! — was used by the Proposition 8 assholes in California as part of their propaganda. We also remember a few years ago when we heard him on an NPR radio show debating the pros and cons of banning “the N-word,” and he refused to acknowledge even the slightest similarity between “nigger” and “faggot,” reasoning that the gays — unlike the blacks — choose to call themselves (ourselves?) faggots. (Oh and then the asshole NPR guy — who was not but could have been Judith Warner — basically agreed with him! Wtf?)
Ok, so most people we know are aware that Jesse Jackson is a huge homo-hating blowhard who needs to STFU asap! So why would Judith Warner rush to elevate him into a symbol of equality? Because she’s so annoyingly self-centered, that’s why, and strangely devoid of any kind of real compassion! (In short, her writing lacks soul.) The only hope for her is if one of her kids is lucky enough to be gay, so that JW might learn to see the world through the eyes of others, for a change, instead of just pretending all the time.

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Tags: Blowhards, Homophobes, Jesse Jackson, Judith Warner, Shallow Optimism, Teh Times, Treacle
In which The Gay Recluse is appeased.
So remember how the BBC invited us on their radio show and made it seem like we were some random caller and not The Gay Recluse? Well, they responded to our complaint with the following message:
I’m sorry your blog wasn’t mentioned. I’ve added a link to your blog on our website http://worldhaveyoursay.wordpress.com/whys-faqs/bloggers-on-whys/ so hopefully that’ll go some way to making up for it…
Actually, that does help make up for it! Thanks, BBC — you’re the best!
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Tags: Apologies, BBC, Blog Wars, Sweet Linkage, Traffic Whoring
In which The Gay Recluse is interviewed on the BBC (but not credited) and then adds a backing track. [Note! Update appended below or click here.]
Ha, so today we got an e-mail from “BBC World Service Request” with the following message:
I work for a programme called World Have Your Say which broadcasts on the BBC World Service every weekday at 6pm UK time (we’re on air in 1.5 hours time). We are a global conversation show and aim to pick up on what we think people around the world are talking about. Today we’re asking whether the fact that Obama won the US election means we live in a more equal world? We’re discussing this with people around the world, looking at all forms of inequality – not just what it means for racial prejudice – I saw your blog (https://thegayrecluse.com/2008/11/05/on-one-benefit-of-being-gay-you-can-vote-for-obama-and-be-pleased-that-he-won-but-not-buy-into-all-this-hope-and-change-bullshit-because-when-all-is-said-and-done-youre-still-a-second-class-citi/) and wondered if you’d be interested in speaking to us on the programme today? (This is the topic as we’ve introduced it on our blog http://worldhaveyoursay.wordpress.com/)
Incredibly enough, it wasn’t a scam/spam (or at least not completely)! We checked in and after getting screened by a very nice person with a perfect British accent, we were put on the air. But annoyingly, the interviewer didn’t make any reference to The Gay Recluse, even though he had no trouble referring (somewhat hilariously, with the accent) to the AngryBlackBitch blog earlier in the show. (Srsly, what’s up with that? Do we not merit the standard quid pro quo? Clearly this is one inequality Obama’s victory didn’t rectify!) Oh well, whatevs, it was still fun. Plus, the BBC! Even Dante and Zephyr were excited!
If you want to listen to the entire show, click here (it’s the November 6 podcast).
Or if you want to rock out to our sixty-second version, complete with backing trax by Death Culture at Sea, click here to listen on our Tumblr or here for the Death Culture site.
Friends, listen to The Gay Recluse on the BBC!
Update! The BBC has responded with the following note:
I’m sorry your blog wasn’t mentioned. I’ve added a link to your blog on our website http://worldhaveyoursay.wordpress.com/whys-faqs/bloggers-on-whys/ so hopefully that’ll go some way to making up for it…
Actually, that does help make up for it! Thanks, BBC — you’re the best!
Filed under: Bad Rock, Death Culture at Sea, Gay, Government, History, Pessimism, Stereotypes, Technology, The Gay Recluse | 3 Comments
Tags: BBC, Netiquette, Obama, Quid Pro Quo, World Have Your Say
In which The Gay Recluse holds a contest. Sort of.
So who wants to take a break from groundbreaking, historical political elections and take a look at something even more timeless, i.e., a hot gay statue? Below we are pleased to present one of the hottest gay statues we’ve seen in a few thousand years, aka Tommy Trojan from the USC campus out in L.A. This arrives courtesy of our friends at art blog C-MONSTER — “Where High Gets Low” — which if it’s not already there should be on your RSS feed.
Srsly, check this out:
(Photo by C-M.)
Whoas, is this guy smokin’ or what? Not to mention, obvs gay! This is only one of many photos that we strongly encourage you to check out at C-Monster. You will, as the saying goes, not regret it. (Unless you live in Cali and voted “yes” on Prop 8, in which case you can expect to get your head chopped off.)
Thanks, C-Monster! We expect tonight to usher in a new golden era of hot gay statues.
The Hot Gay Statue round-up:
- Rules and Guidelines
- Dan Savage Endorsement
- Washington Heights (New York City)
- Washington, DC
- The London Eye Clarifies an Important Issue
- Florence (Italy)
- The Park Avenue Amory (Upper East Side/NYC)
- Murray Hill (New York City)
- Madrid (Spain)
- Los Angeles
- Philadelphia
- The London Eye: “In Your Face”
- The J-Man Inspires
- George Washington
- Georgia (Republic of)
- New Orleans
- Columbus Circle (New York City)
- Two Davids (Florence)
- Franco Harris Statue (Pittsburgh)
- London Firefighters and Other Heroes
- Columbus Circle Mall (New York City)
- Miami
- Paris
- Grand Central Station (New York City)
- Albany, New York
- Chicago
- Albany, New York (Hot Gay Statute)
- The Metropolitan Museum (New York City)
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Tags: C-Monster, Elections, Tommy Trojan, USC
In which The Gay Recluse listens with admiration to the new record by The New Year.

Recently we went to see The New Year in Williamsburg. It was a great show until we went back to our car and discovered that some frat boy asshole had broken off our side mirror on the car. Goodbye $300!

But whatevs, we’re not here to talk about the bizarrely homogeneous youth culture we witnessed in the streets surrounding the rock club, but the music we heard inside.

The New Year will always have place in our heart, because they are the only band that still makes us genuinely excited about rock, at least as part of an audience.

We remember the first time we saw them (this of course was Bedhead, the previous incarnation of the band), almost fifteen years ago. We had bought their debut album — What Fun Life Was — after a friend of ours (now deceased, sadly, ironically) read something about how Dean Wareham supposedly loved Bedhead, which at the time — given our Galaxie 500 obsession — was more than enough to rush over to Kim’s Underground and buy a copy. Which we loved! We were immediately possessed by the careful orchestration — three guitars! — hushed lyrics and anthemic waves of sound. Though at times it brought to mind a roaring My Bloody Valentine-esque wall-of-noise, it was quintessentially American music, with direct roots in the third album by the Velvet Underground (“Pale Blue Eyes” and “Candy Says”). We learned that they were from Texas, which seemed to make sense.

The live show was at CBs. We got there just in time for a midnight slot, after hauling our ass back from Coney Island where we had seen some shitty band. It was like 110 degrees outside (and in our memory, inside too), but we didn’t care, we were mesmerized as soon as they started setting up: there was something remarkably unassuming and awkward — yet endearing — about the way they took the stage; at least three had full beards, and a couple of them wore John Lennon glasses, which made them look more like a late 60s debate team than a mid-90s indie-rock band. More importantly, they used small amplifiers (e.g., a Princeton reverb) and all three guitarists played Telecasters. When they launched into their set, we died a little, in the way we used to die when seeing our favorite bands, as if we could soak up their brilliance and use it to find our own way in the world. (Lol.) It wasn’t “freak-out” rock at all — there wasn’t even an indie-rock head nod to be seen — which isn’t to say it wasn’t emotional, but rather remarkably introspective, the sort of thing that by the end made it seem as if you had just seen an epic movie, but in an empty theater.

In Williamsburg the other night, we still felt a stab — or perhaps even a pang — of this old exhilaration, even though we’re too old and jaded to get blown away the way we used to. (Or at least outside of a Tristan show with a kickin’ Isolde — lol!)

Interesting enough, the new record — also called The New Year — in some ways seems to reflect this kind of passage/growth/maturity — or more depressingly, loss.

The music is no less careful in its note-by-note construction than past albums — and there’s nobody who’s put out as many consistently great records as the Kadanes, i.e., the songwriters, and the musicians are always top-flight (hey, Mike D!) — but on the whole the songs seem more resigned to a certain complexity of the moment, rather than searching for the big payoff, as we are more inclined to do in our youth.

Perhaps this is why we find on this record a wider range of instruments/orchestration; there are pianos and keyboards and vocal multi-tracking/harmonies and even what sounds like a My Bloody Valentine sample in “The Company I Can Get.”

But mostly the songs dwell on failed ambition, and the resignation of small — i.e., adult — pleasures (in the form of drinks, laffs, banter with rednecks, vacations from work, and so on).

Which in lesser hands might be unbearably mundane except for the way it’s bound together by a philosophical pessimism rooted in the pain of life, the impossibility of escape, the relentless ambivalence for the best life has to offer and the dimming flicker of hope that anything will ever be different. In short, we are reminded* of the sad axiom of Pascal: “The soul is pained by all things it thinks upon.”

In what is perhaps the most brutal song on the album — “The Idea of You” — we hear from someone who seems to want to love but who after being ground down by experience seems to recognize his incapacity to ever truly do so. The crescendo at the end of this song — the last on the album — is less cathartic than damning and bitter and brittle, yet for all its (albeit quite cerebral) pain — and this is the miracle — still exquisitely beautiful.

It reminds us of the fleeting joy we get for a few seconds after a snowstorm, when we contemplate the banks of snow covering the world outside, before we remember we have to shovel it all away to just to get out of the house.
*That this sentence is lifted almost verbatim from Huysmans makes it no less true.
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In which Zephyr takes over The Gay Recluse.
Friends! What if the polls are wrong? What if the conspiracy theories are true?
What are these strange places called Ohio, Pennsylvania, Nevada, Colorado and Virginia? And why does our fate rest in their hands?
What happens on Wednesday morning if Barack Obama loses?
Will we be thrown into the streets or lose our homes? Will we lose our job as technical assistant?
Why is life always so uncertain? Even when you’re only two years old and have spent your entire life in one place?
Oh well, there’s some good teevee on tonight and we don’t want to miss out.
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Tags: Conspiracies, Elections, Panic Attacks, Paul McCobb, Polls, Teevee, Worry, Zephyr
In which The Gay Recluse gets an answer.
Hey, remember those awesome art-installation storefronts in Washington Heights? Our friends at Uptown Flavor just wrote to tell us that they’re part of an initiative sponsored by the West Harlem Art Fund.
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Tags: Storefronts, Uptown Flavor, WaHi, West Harlem Art Fund
In which The Gay Recluse needs a nap.
We’re not sure why, but this has been the longest week in history.
The election, the economy, the daylight-savings extension: all of it has left us utterly exhausted.
(Or maybe it was the ten beers we had last night?)
Today when we couldn’t handle it anymore, we zoned out staring at the dots of this poster.
There’s something soothing about the contrast of the royal blue against the electric yellow.
Sometimes for us the trick to surviving a slow day is to make it even slower, e.g., by counting each of the 4,576 dots on this poster! (Kidding!)
But if you stare at something like this long enough, it will start to move, a reminder that the world never really stops.
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