On Modern Love: A Reader Basically Wonders If This Shit Is Made Up (Also, a Call for Submissions!)
In which The Gay Recluse disagrees with one reader and agrees with another.
Recently reader Wil sent in the following comment in response to our April 5th updated analysis of the Modern Love column in the New York Times, in which openly gay writers almost never appear, and even less frequently describe romantic relationships:
[I]t’s written for the ladies, by the ladies. My advice – stop reading it.
Ha! That’s actually pretty funny. And we would probably follow Wil’s advice if we didn’t find it ultimately entertaining to laugh at the Modern Love column (ha ha — look at Modern Love!) and the way it perpetuates so many ridiculous (and bourgeois!) stereotypes, mostly with regard to gender but also sexual orientation in those rare columns that dare to broach the issue. Plus we met Kayla Rachlin Small by way of her unusually awesome column, and that alone has justified the venture from our standpoint.
We also received another letter, this from reader Donna (of Crazed Angels fame), who wrote the following in response to this week’s Modern Love column about a woman who (supposedly) orders a sex chair (but then never uses it — Zzzzzzz):
I couldn’t get through the column. And I don’t think it’s true.
I tried twice.
My big issue with ML lately is that I think they’re accepting writing that’s more fictional than non-fiction – but not non-fictional in a satirical way. The single mother lawyer who came across as a crazy b****, choosing homework with her daughter over time with men she supposedly loved, was clearly lying about how many men were chasing her and how long they were willing to wait it out. But she wasn’t funny.
This week’s couple is SO not funny. At least not as far as I got.
And who orders sex chairs when you’re drunk? Who the f*** can get through an online form when you’re drunk?
I’m getting really tired of the ML editors. I wish they’d post the concept of ML – what do they think it is? It’s becoming increasingly sloppy and unclear.
Thanks for writing, Donna — like you say, half the shit seems made up, and not in a good way! (You’re also living proof that even lady readers are unhappy with the ML column, so take that, Wil!)
We’d welcome more opinions on Modern Love, and not just from a gay perspective (although that’s obviously our axe to grind.) Ladies? Gents? Is anyone else as annoyed as Donna? Do you also think they’re making the shit up? Let us know!
Finally, a call for submissions! If anyone ever wants to submit a TRUE Modern Love column, we’d love to post it, whether it’s gay or straight or about cats or drugs or whatever; just make it modern — you know what we mean! — and about love in whatever form you believe it exists. (Our only rule: don’t send us a story about a piece of sex furniture unless you use it at least once!)
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Tags: Daniel Jones, Gay Modern Love, Lies, Modern Love, Stereotypes, The New York Times