Comments on: On the Search for Gay Modern Love: May 3, 2008

By: The Gay Recluse

The Gay Recluse — Mon, 05 May 2008 04:05:47 +0000

Hey Michelle, thanks for the depressingly uninformed but somewhat earnest comment. (I guess.) I already wrote a Gay Modern Love and it was published by Gawker. (The link is in the ethos page above.) My point in doing these columns is not because I’m bitter about my own plight but because I think it’s preposterous to have a column about “Modern Love” in the gayest section of The Times that is basically never about gay love. It’s dehumanizing and homophobic on many levels. Your suggestion is pretty much like when people say: “If you don’t like living in the United States, why don’t you move to Canada?” Which is kind of stupid when you think about it. Also, let me blow your mind for a second and tell you that in absolute numbers, way more gay people read The Times than Next or CraigsList, so don’t you think that we/they deserve some representation? How would you like it if the Modern Love column were only written by men and I told you to go start your own by asking for submissions in some lady magazine like Cosmo or Elle? Time to expand those horizons…

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 05 May 2008 03:46:21 +0000

I can appreciate your plight. I am a writer. And I covert a spot in Modern Love, myself.
I’m wondering why you wouldn’t simply start a blog called Modern Gay Love and ask for submissions on Craig’s List or in publications like Next.

It could be all the craze.

Picture it: Every Sunday a new Modern Gay Love about the struggles and joys of being in gay relationships.

Do it better, instead of being bitter.

As my soon-to-be 8-year old son says, “Don’t make me snap my fingers in a z-formation.”

Respectfully yours,

Michelle

By: Fanzy

Fanzy — Sun, 04 May 2008 12:55:38 +0000

“as if finding such a relationship is a question of tediously sifting through the paint chips until you find the perfect color with which you can live happily ever after.”

*sigh* you’re my paint chip, TGR.